The Magic of 3

Well. It is the last 3 months of the year,before we welcome 2018.

Ouch. Yay. OMG. Could probably be a few reactions. We all had a different plan for ourselves this year. For some,it worked, well for some, they chose all the different alphabets to make other plans.

There could be 3 possible approaches to what lies ahead:

  1. Ouch. I have pretty much wasted the entire year. Different things have happened that took me off-track and just 3 months. Alright, fine. I didn’t end up losing all that weight so let me just binge eat all over again and start afresh from the new year. All my relations are off track so, let me just revive them when the clock ticks 12 on 31st December. This is so not where I wanted to be but here I am. Let’s just go with the flow.

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    Let’s be lazy and please ignore bruised dancer’s feet 😛

  2. YAY. These last 3 months ARE going to be magical. It is the festive time where lots of marriages and events are lined up and everything is going to be colourful and fun. This is the time to live and party!! I can always work on my goals when the year year starts! I need to get my clothes for each scene sorted, gotta choreograph those sangeet pieces, gosh my hair-need to fix them up somehow. Oh! My friends are coming and it is going to be a big fat reunion,must spread the word.

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    Let’s just jump up and down in excitement. YEAHAAYYY!

  3. OMG. *Panic attacks* I was supposed to be there but now I am here and I only have 3 months to do it. Alright so let me get this straight,I need to put XYZ hours and this week I’ll start off with this and according to my calculations by Christmas,if I don’t slack, I’ll get where I want to be. Alright. Phew. Lets get into action. I have so totally got this. *Plays “This Girl is On Fire” in the background.*
    Must not slack, will not slack, come-what-may.
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Let’s keep our eyes fixed on where we want to get and let’s just get there NOW.

The MAGIC lies in how you approach and what is your attitude like when most of the people give up, when businesses are slow, when numbers are low..

Personally for me, since I have all of the 3 reactions, I’ll be choosing the best from all and get my life back together and get myself on track to where I want to be.

I hope you do too.

Lots of good wishes coming your way,

EverythingAtOnce

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Remember the time when you were learning how to ride your bicycle..

471751_10150956695273944_2059010084_oDo you? Do you remember that time when you were so sure of falling and hurting yourself but you knew you wanted to cycle around in your beautiful sea-facing society? Do you? Do you remember shivering and being scared to hold the handle, let go of the legs from the ground only to start pedalling despite having the two human and mechanical supporters on either side?

 

Today, on my way to teach in a school, I noticed a teenager struggling to ride his bicycle even though he had two friends and two supporters on either side. At first, I was felt he was a little too old to learn and why would he even start so late, what were his parents thinking when he was younger. But obviously I slapped myself in the head just the next second for being judgemental. Maybe that was the first time he probably sat on one and couldn’t afford one all this while or he could have just recovered from a life changing injury. YOU NEVER KNOW!

How quick are we to jumping into conclusions. Why? Because we would like see the world how it should be from our eyes ONLY, not actually how it is.

Anyway, the point being:

  1. You are never too old to learn ANYTHING.
  2. It’s okay to be scared when you are doing something that you are unsure about.
  3. You cannot remain scared and continue doing whatever it is that you really want.
  4. You will GROW. There is nothing but that if you truly invest time in learning that something.
  5. Try not to judge people basis their actions. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  6. Learn to trust people who support you/mentor you. Sometimes you may not understand their tough love.
  7. Make mistakes. Embrace them with a smile and stop stressing over it time and again. Eg: Check this out. Here Messing up while dancing and still going with the flow are two bold ladies. Yay,Riddhi.

 

I feel with age, we build walls around us. Wall of pride and prejudice. Wall of self-doubt and inferiority. Walls that should technically help us make a beautiful structure from the strong foundation that we have had but instead we make shaky statements from the uncertain thoughts that leads to unpredictable future and helplessness.

If only we could be as carefree as kids and just approach things ilife without over-thinking,over-reacting,over-doubting,over-working, over-expecting.

What would I do to live in such a world.

Cheers,

EverythingAtOnce

Why they say Everything Great lies outside your “Comfort Zone”

Hi, hello, its ME!

Yes, it has been a while. I have been traveling and have been wanting to tell you all the stories and experiences but THIS ONE experience I just had to type in and share it right away.

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When the sky looks limitless, you feel it too!

My sister had been telling me for weeks to go and do this as she had already done it before. I kept on procrastinating because although I did climb some mountains, trekked, para-glided, but this was something WAYY above that. I mean jumping out of a fairly flying plane is not the best idea of sanity. I was scared. It is not normal. But I wondered and thought to myself, “What could really go wrong?”. Oh well, I did get a huge list of answer to that question while I signed the legal documents today at Sky Dive Rock. The reasons ranged from failure of equipment to failure of the human heart. While I read those out, I was hesitant to go forward with the formalities. The smiling faces and encouraging environment kept me from quitting. So we went up ahead.

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The de-stressing Foosball table 😀

As we were not very sure of the traffic from Madison to Beloit, we had reached earlier than our scheduled appointment. After the small training period, we had almost half an hour, where I de-stressed by playing foosball with my best sister. The other guys who turned up at their rightly scheduled appointment looked at me, who was so carefree by that time and remarked about the same. I am so glad we reached before time to not be so overwhelmed by the videos they showed during that small training.

In Tandem Jumping, you are literally trusting your life on your diver. Howy had a 29 year experience and had also set some world records in this field. He made me feel like a warrior.

My time had come.

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Embarking the Magic Carpet

 

As we entered the plane and started flying up, my heart raced. I asked myself why am I doing this again? I have asked this question quite a lot of times this year after I switched my career to become a professional dancer, so it was not a very new question.
I wanted to fight my fears, and believe in myself. To have trust and confidence in someone who is helping me through my journey (my mentors and support system) in life. To dance through difficult situations and have faith that nothing will go wrong. So I sang some Fauji songs (rather screamed but no-one could really hear me,thankfully!). I looked at the view, took it all in, took a deep breath and shut my eyes to calm down.

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It was quite a thrilling view

5 minutes before the jump, Howy hooked me on to him. Literally. Yes. That was quite comforting and nerve-wrecking at the same time because the jump was getting nearer but there was someone who I could rely on in case anything went wrong. As I was kneeling, my right leg went numb. I was not really sure about doing this. But I knew if my sister could do it, I could too. Putting my mind back on the positive track, I took deep breaths and watched the pilot give a thumbs up.

1 minute left. Howy opened the door. The wind hit me so hard as I was right next to the door. I wore my glasses. As soon as I took my hand out of the door, it flung up! I realised it was quite cold and windy outside. The moment I put my leg on the step after he did, we jumped. I doubt if I was mentally prepared for it because I was waiting for a signal from him that he had said he would give, which obviously seemed like a trap.

 

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We were free falling.

 

 

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Bringing some peace to the world;)

I had already thought of doing splits and singing songs and smiling away to glory when I would jump but of course, it did not go as planned. But I did do something instead of just putting my hands up and screaming like a warrior! Most of the time my mouth just could not close because the winds were so damn strong and this new experience was so strong and overwhelming,so most of my pictures look like I am gasping for air but I really wasn’t! Howy let me do crazy turns mid air when we opened our parachute. It felt incredible. It felt great to be just flying and so worry-free. There is a gush of intense emotions throughout your body that leave you drained and so empowered at the same time.

I want to fly. And I know I can. Dance can let me do that.

I just cannot wait to get back and get going with all my goals that I have in mind which got so much of clarity because of this one experience.

And it’s not as scary as I make it sound. Go check that off your bucket list!

Cheers,

EverythingAtOnce

From Dusk to Dawn, From Smile to Frown

S (related to K): I love my job but I really want to be an entrepreneur. My parents are after my life to give them grandkids but what they do not talk about it what I want from my career, what I really want to achieve, what my dreams look like. It is just frustrating. I am deciding to let them pressurise my older sibling to give them their happiness of a lifetime with whatever time they have left.

K (related to S): I’ll  be retiring from the services in about 3 years and plan do start my own thing. I ave seen some retired colleagues of mine do that and are really happy doing it. So I think I will give it a shot. But hey, I was paid to go to college by the states, free from student debt!

I (related to P): Well, sometimes I think the only reason I have chosen this field is because I know I will get better money so that I am able to do the other things I like to do (travelling, eating,etc) but this field definitely isn’t driving me in anyway. I Just like how it enables me to do other things.

P (related to I): I have been asked to quit by my mentors while pursuing something which I feel is my calling. After taking it all to my heart and having breakdowns, I have decided to make them regret saying the things they did. I am failing at something that is supposed to make me happy but I am not giving up. You will always see me struggle but never quit.

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The most beautiful evening (Ignore the image quality, that is all an overused Nexus 5 can give :P)

 

The evening was spent by this and even more as we sipped cold beer in the ice biting winds. This time here has given me a lot of time to understand people, their drivers, their passion and career choices. Of course, what most of us have selected is not very common, not very predictable, definitely is “The road less travelled by” and probably failed. But at least we will not have any regrets in our later stage of life where we are kind of expected to be by ourselves (mentally,emotionally,financially,physically, and any other -ally you would like to add,please go ahead!)

 

Yes, it is important to have a Plan B but oh the wonders belief and self-confidence can do!!

Here’s to more belief as we move from dusk to dawn,when smiles end with frown..

 

Cheers,

EverythingAtOnce

Of Fancy Dreams and Real Efforts

Oh, how easy it is to think of yourself on the stage. Spotlights on you. The crowd going bonkers, screaming your name and jumping with fan-boards saying “Marry Me!”while you dance your heart out.

How easy it is to go for that  fan-fest, being the highlight of the evening, signing tees,album records, books, papers, hands,shoes and other things people come up with.

How easy it is to imagine singing in front of that beautifully set up space with the most ideal musicians and audience.

Ideal. That is how are dreams tend to be. It is easy to dream such dreams, looking up at the sky with glitter in your eyes and a priceless smile on your face.

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But is it really that easy to achieve them? Oh NO. Oh, HELL NO.

There will be a dozen of unpredictable things that can happen and will go wrong, beyond your imagination and control. Your support system may fall apart, for all you know ,you might not even have a support system. You might not be accepted, people would legit ask you to quit and say it is not meant for you. They will embarrass you and make you only look at your failures. There will be roadblocks, injuries, accidents, absolutely broke days, uninspired days, sick of everything week, why am I even doing this month.

And that is when I would want you to read/watch “The Pursuit of Happyness”. And engrave this in your head- “You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you, you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.”

You will have to celebrate your small wins, even if it is just by yourself. But celebrate. Appreciate every little bold step that you take towards your progress, make those addictive, unhealthy sacrifices. Push yourself because nobody else is going to do that for you. Work smart and hard. Harder,Hardest. And most importantly, be patient. Everything will happen with time. It takes some real tough work to get what you really want . Out of the 60 minutes in an hour, every minute of all the 24 hours, you probably will have a thought of quitting, with that ache in your heart, the crumpled soul, the bleeding stomach, the dead body, the tired mind. You will ask if this is even worth all the efforts, when everyday is a fight with yourself to become better than what you were yesterday. You will question your sanity, your decisions, the opportunity costs, which will always be too damn high.

Then there will be times when you are glad to be breathing with happiness in soul and celebrating the fact that you are eventually doing what you love. The satisfaction, oh those moments of sheer pleasure- will tell you why it is worth it.  Irrespective of the fame or success (which will take a long time,mind you), you will still keep at it. Look back to only see how far you have come.

And you won’t even realise, you’ll become that diamond from the charcoal after the amount of pressure you went through. That is the day a star will be born without you even realising it, until then,

Keep Working , Keep Believing and Keep Celebrating 🙂

Love,

EverythingAtOnce

The Night I finally Gate-crashed a Fancy Wedding

We all have this one wish in our bucket list that just never seems to happen. Either we aren’t ready when the opportunity arises or the opportunity does not arise when we are! But 2 weeks back, coincidentally both were ready and being the opportunistic I am, we decided to finally tick that off!

My friend and I finally reached the place we were to go for another friend’s birthday scene and we see this fancy lit up place facing the waters right next to Gateway. Although I wanted to crash one at Marine drive but this one was no less.We entered to find out that there is no mention of the bride and groom. Typical Indian weddings usually have the “BOY weds GIRL” in proper noun just outside the gate. We walked further to find the only name mentioned was “Food Catered by Grills and Wok”. OK. We walked further and made it a point to go to the stage to wish the bride and the groom but the bride was not on stage. That made us think that maybe this not a wedding, it is just a hotel opening maybe. There was no music, no dance happening, no Chat counter,no scene of people only standing near the food stalls. Couldn’t be a wedding,right? WRONG.

We looked around only to find ourselves standing out from the beautifully dressed Muslim ladies (I do not know how ALL of them have such glowing skin!) and absolutely stunning, handsome men who had clearly dressed for a wedding. We turn towards the side where we thought food would be served only to find the bride walking with her sister’s. Yes, some people constantly had their eyes on us as we clearly weren’t in a similar attire but we were in formals.

OK. We had gatecrashed a wedding afterall. WIN. A Muslim one- this was my first time experience so I don’t mean to generalise but this is how it was for us.

Since we did not know who’s wedding we were in, we decided to keep our identity as surprise food inspectors from the caterers’ side to monitor the quality. #YAYBRAIN Thankfully the attire helped us with that identity so *phew*

By now our stomach was rumbling. But the food counter only had desserts and juices. “Where is the food served?”, I shamelessly asked a waiter as he passed by. He said that the starters and main course is served only on the table. Since most of the tables were filled, we decided to sit next to the two people sitting in a eight seater. We waited for sometime but no one seemed to come to serve us. Hangry me, I asked them what is going on. They said they cannot start serving a table if eight people are not sitting on one. “WHAT IS THIS SYSTEMATIC WEDDING”, I screamed in my head. We maintained our poise and calm to sit on another table that needed just two more people for them to start serving. Of course, we felt bad for the two people we left behind but sorry, stomach before humanity!

Starters started pouring in. Every single thing was from some animal’s body. Preferred vegetarian that I was, chose to give them a shot. Tasted damn fine and then the royal Chicken Biriyani comes in. You can only imagine how yumm in the tumm that was!

Surprisingly,no one asked us anything. Confidence definitely sells everywhere. Yes, there were times when my friend thought that if they got to know they could kill us but all in most laughable way!

I am a fool for experiences as they help me strengthen my belief that the world is not that bad a place and people are quite great and judgements should not be made on the basis of just 1% of people that are bad in every race/culture/religion/country/continent.

The evening ended well with a different experience of an Indian wedding. Hoping many more experiences in 2017.

Signing off,

EverythingAtOnce

 

I don’t know about you,But I’m not ready for 22

Hello,you lovely face reading this.

This is a pure birthday rant. Do not expect some great level of wisdom here.

Warned you.

Fine. You only chose to read.

Here goes:

I am going to turn 22 in a week.
TWENTY TWO IN A WEEK!
Let me just digest that.

Why am I making such a big deal out of it? Everyone turns 22,right? Right.
Age is just a number? No. NOT. Especially not in my case. When you look 16, but are mentally 26 but from heart a simple 6. What are you supposed to do!

Although I told myself that I will eat a whole big box of Nutella on that day, so I am kinda looking forward to it. But that is just a small thing to make me look forward to it. Yeah, I try to play mind games with myself

It is a weird age.
22.
You’re still figuring how to adult.
Your dark circles are actually bigger than the Ront de jambe you make in your ballet classes. (That’s the funniest thing I have ever said btw!)

A part of me wants to really go all out and fulfil my party desires as my schedule does not really allow me to have a that life as such. Another part of me wants to just take a leave and sleep in the day and go out with my famjam.

I absolutely miss my college gang aka friends for life aka ch..um, nevermind (:P, you guys stop smirking!). They would make it the most special thing on the surface of the Earth. EVERY YEAR. College was definitely the best time with them!
Also, it will be without her because hello exams. But that is cool I think. #BirthdaytwinsAt12am

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On another note,to be very honest, I do not know why people make such a big deal about birthdays. I mean fine,yes, your parents took the effort, your mom went through the pain and the doctors actually took you out and you made hardly any effort other than breathing which is very natural, so what is this celebration about? Your sheer existence that still hasn’t made any major impact in the world?

Yes, celebrate small wins but always keep the bigger goals in mind. Make the world a better place because they do not need successful people any more. The world needs successful human beings.

Be happy, don’t panic.
Believe.

And miracles will happen!

Follow your “K” Passion

As a kid, I was passionate to be the “All Rounder” at school and won that award consecutively for six years- yes, from Mathematics Relay Race to Best out of Waste to Highest grades to Teacher’s favorite to the Soloist in dances- I had it all. (Wow, what consistency)

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Love for Minions should be shown all the time. YUS.

My older sister introduced me to basketball and in secondary section, that became my passion which was lived with my childhood bestie till the 1st year of college. Those crazy practices, inter-house competitions, to the try-outs, to making it to top 5, those lay-up trios and fast breaks.

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There was a time when I really wanted to establish an All Women National Basketball Team and take the sport international for us. We used to bleed and sweat and would dance in our wins and cry in our losses.

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In senior secondary school, it was Numbers and economy that attracted me towards them. Without a second thought I took up Science and Economics. Science because I was sure that a Science student can take Arts but an Arts student cannot take Science. Fundas had been clear ever since! Though difficult at first, I loved the challenges Derivatives and National Income Accounting gave me.I would do a little happy dance in my head whenever I got them right! I was so sure that I wanted to study at Indian Statistical Institute after I graduate in Eco,Math and Stats from a prestigious institute.

Once college started, I realised by my true love lies in Stats and not Maths (Blame the terrible Math department of Xavier’s in 2012). So naturally I graduated in Eco-Stats and decided to work for a year and then go for masters in Statistics. Ofcourse, we jumped and danced in the rains during convocation, (yeah, it was raining here back then) unaware of what lies ahead.

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So I joined this start-up. Helping them set up the Analytics function for People Analytics. Well, it was fun to work with numbers in a way.And not, in a way. In two months of joining, I joined the Danceworx Summer workshop and oh you should have seen how happy I used to be while I would leave office every Monday and Thursday. Those few days that I used to look forward going to office right from the time I would get up! But clearly, I couldn’t continue with the regular classes because office has people and people have issues. I danced in silence whenever my room would be empty and imagine myself doing some beautiful contemporary moves which in real life, looks very potato-like.

All said and done I quit my job after a year and took up probation at Danceworx. the story in between will be covered some other day. And I have never been this happy.

If you just take 2 minutes to re-read my blog, you’ll notice I have danced in every instance.
That’s my constant, That’s my Scientific “K”.
That’s my “K” passion.

Find that for yourself. And live it up!

Like always, forever open to critical feedback

Cheers,

EverythingAtOnce

 

 

To be or Just let it be

We all keep hearing these things”TO BE” right from our childhood to

Be sincere
Be honest
Be smart
Be a hard-worker
Be polite
Be obedient
Be able
Be trustworthy
BE PRACTICAL
Be Calculative
Be an all rounder

 

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Be successful
Be rich
Be bold
Be fearless
Be Passionate
Be fit
Be free
Be a fighter
Be a lover
Be active
Be creative
Be different
Be unique
Be accepting

Well, these plethora of adjectives that the world sometimes (actually, always) imposes on us, we tend to be left with only ONE choice – To actually “be” or just let it be and either just sit back and watch this drama called “Life” as it plays by or take the “Be happy”, most seriously.

(2b) *insert downward U* (2b-)

 

 

I am not trying to make a point that these two are mutually exclusive, maybe by being happy, you are also being fit, active, honest and smart. All my math loving friends would have smirked by seeing the image whereas I can see the hatred in some eyes. 😛

The only point I am trying to make is instead of going towards “Just let it be”, “Be happy.” Here “Just let it be” is taken to be in a not so very positive context- completely tired and sick of life and absolutely hopeless and ambition-less. You get the picture,right?

Be Happy, Stay Blessed.

Like always, forever open to critical feedback!

Cheers,

EverythingAtOnce